>Personality Plus

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oleh: Nilna Iqbal – PustakaNilna.com

Florence Litteur, penulis buku terlaris “Personality Plus” menguraikan, ada empat pola watak dasar manusia. Kalau saja semua sudah kita pahami, kita akan sangat terbantu sekali dalam berhubungan dengan orang lain.

Yang pertama, kata Florence adalah golongan Sanguinis, “Yang Populer”. Mereka ini cenderung ingin populer, ingin disenangi oleh orang lain. Hidupnya penuh dengan bunga warna-warni. Mereka senangsekali bicara tanpa bisa dihentikan. Gejolak emosinya bergelombang dan transparan.

Lain lagi dengan tipe kedua, golongan melankoli, “Yang Sempurna”. Cenderung serba teratur, rapi, terjadwal, tersusun sesuai pola. Umumnya mereka ini suka dengan fakta-fakta, data-data, angka-angka dan sering sekali memikirkan segalanya secara mendalam.

Ketiga, manusia Koleris, “Yang Kuat”. Mereka ini suka sekali mengatur orang, suka tunjuk-tunjuk atau perintah-perintah orang. Ia tak ingin ada penonton dalam aktivitasnya. Bahkan tamu pun bisa sajaia `suruh’ melalukan sesuatu untuknya. Akibat sifatnya yang `bossy’ itu membuat banyak orang koleris tak punya banyak teman.

Hal ini berbeda sekali dengan jenis keempat, sang Phlegmatis “Cinta Damai”. Kelompok ini tak suka terjadi konflik, karena itu disuruh apa saja ia mau lakukan, sekalipun ia sendiri nggak suka. Baginya kedamaian adalah segala-galanya. J

Begitulah, manusia memang amat beragam.

oleh: Nilna Iqbal – PustakaNilna.com

Florence Litteur, penulis buku terlaris “Personality Plus” menguraikan, ada empat pola watak dasar manusia. Kalau saja semua sudah kita pahami, kita akan sangat terbantu sekali dalam berhubungan dengan orang lain.

Yang pertama, kata Florence adalah golongan Sanguinis, “Yang Populer”. Mereka ini cenderung ingin populer, ingin disenangi oleh orang lain. Hidupnya penuh dengan bunga warna-warni. Mereka senangsekali bicara tanpa bisa dihentikan. Gejolak emosinya bergelombang dan transparan.

Lain lagi dengan tipe kedua, golongan melankoli, “Yang Sempurna”. Cenderung serba teratur, rapi, terjadwal, tersusun sesuai pola. Umumnya mereka ini suka dengan fakta-fakta, data-data, angka-angka dan sering sekali memikirkan segalanya secara mendalam.

Ketiga, manusia Koleris, “Yang Kuat”. Mereka ini suka sekali mengatur orang, suka tunjuk-tunjuk atau perintah-perintah orang. Ia tak ingin ada penonton dalam aktivitasnya. Bahkan tamu pun bisa sajaia `suruh’ melalukan sesuatu untuknya. Akibat sifatnya yang `bossy’ itu membuat banyak orang koleris tak punya banyak teman.

Hal ini berbeda sekali dengan jenis keempat, sang Phlegmatis “Cinta Damai”. Kelompok ini tak suka terjadi konflik, karena itu disuruh apa saja ia mau lakukan, sekalipun ia sendiri nggak suka. Baginya kedamaian adalah segala-galanya. J

Begitulah, manusia memang amat beragam.

 

>15 Life Lessons They Don’t Teach You In School

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There is the type of education we get in school and there are life lessons we learn along the way. Both are important.

The only problem is that life moves us far along before we figure out what’s going on and the wisdom we hope to have gained is sometimes late in coming.

To spare you some of the hard knocks and trial and error, here are some life lessons to help you along.

1. As Richard Carlson says, ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’, and most of it is small stuff. Much of the time we get stressed and worked up over “stuff” that in the grand scheme of things really doesn’t matter. When we allow ourselves get too caught up in it we ruin our perspective and don’t take time to enjoy the moment.
2. Life can be unpredictable and throw you some curves. Just say “never” and see what happens! To avoid the jolt when life’s surprises come your way, be prepared by being open-minded and maintain the positive mindset that welcomes the life lessons offered.
3. The most boring word in any language is “I”. It’s wonderful to be self-confident and self-sufficient, however, it’s not all about you. There is nothing more monotonous than hearing someone talk about themselves and their accomplishments endlessly. Being self-centered is not the same as having self-confidence.
4. People are more important than things. Relationships are more important than any material goods you may acquire on the road to success. Without the love and support of family and friends in life, material goods are not of much use. Setting your values and priorities can help you establish what’s important.
5. Nobody else can make you happy. Your happiness and state of mind are your responsibility. It’s up to each of us to know what it takes to be balanced and happy. Our relationships enhance our lives and make them richer, but they do not “make” us happy. We do.
6. Character and integrity count. It’s important to be a person of honor. Your good word and deeds inspire trust and confidence from family, friends and employers. Be the kind of person others are proud to know.
7. Forgive yourself, your friends and your enemies. We are all only too human. All of us slip sometimes and make mistakes. Holding grudges and past hurts only serves to prevent us from enjoying life to the fullest.
8. A good joke can be better than any pill. Take time to laugh each day. Humor really is good medicine.
9. There are no substitutes for exercise, eating well, and fresh air and sunshine. Never take your health for granted or underestimate how much feeling good physically affects your moods.
10. Persistence will eventually get you almost anything. Never give up. Keep your goals and dreams alive.
11. Television probably ruins more minds than drugs. Get away from the TV and read, exercise, learn and stretch yourself.
12. It’s okay to fail. Everyone has failed at one time or another. Failure is a great life teacher. It teaches us humility and how to correct our course of action. Thomas Edison had a great attitude towards failure. He said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
13. Learn from the mistakes of others. There’s an old Zen proverb that states: “It takes a wise man to learn from his mistakes, but an even wiser man to learn from others.”
14. Don’t be afraid to show and tell others you love them. Life is short so learn to give and receive love. Love and be loved.
15. Live so that there is only standing room at your funeral. Be the best spouse, parent, friend, boss, worker that you can be and leave the world a better place than you found it.

“The difference between school and life? In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.” Tom Bodett

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>Take Control of Your Life or Personal Leadership

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Each day you have the ability to make the choice to take control of your life, or to let it control you. You can either be proactive, or you can let circumstances call the shots.

To take control of your life or exercise personal leadership is to take responsibility for yourself and for every area of your life. It means being connected with your values, your vision and to set meaningful goals for yourself. When you do, you become more productive, more optimistic, able to solve problems more easily and ultimately have less stress in your life.

No doubt, with all the chaos and uncertainty that is going in the world these days it may be difficult to feel like you are in charge of your life, and while there are some things you have no control over, there is much that you do. Understand that you are the principal architect and creator of your life and that you are where you are at, because of the choices and decisions you have made thus far.

An interesting concept that I came across in my readings recently, and as it relates to personal leadership, is to see yourself as the CEO of your own life. If you were to apply it to yourself, how would run your life? What kind of strategic planning would you do and how would you envision your future? I would guess that in seeing yourself as the CEO of your life, you would be inspired to think in a more effective, results oriented manner.

As your own CEO, here are some ways in which you can take control of your life and exercise personal leadership:

Determine your values and what’s important to you. As I wrote in Have A Personal Value System, knowing what your values are gives you structure and purpose, which in turn directs you on how to focus your time and efforts. It would be similar to the ‘mission statement’ a company would hold. As you probably know, a mission statement typically spells out the overall goals and drives the actions of an organization. It likewise provides a roadmap and guides the decision-making processes for management.

In your life your mission statement could be something like: “My purpose is to live life to the fullest by taking the care of my health, relationships, finances and overall happiness to the best of my abilities.”

When you state your objective so succinctly, you can’t help but be focused and take the right actions for where you need to be. This also helps keep you from being aimless and scattered, not to mention avoiding hit and miss situations.

Plan, be organized and set goals. Think of the big picture of what you want in your life and then break it down to manageable parts. For everything that you want to accomplish, you need a strategy or action plan. One way is to set goals appropriate to your mission statement and then devise a plan on how to go about achieving them. Nothing happens by itself; so taking charge of your life entails taking the bull by the horns. Rather than daydreaming about what you want or engaging in wishful thinking, you set the wheels in motion for success. In fact, the planning stages can actually be fun and challenging! Not only will you achieve your objectives, you will sharpen your critical thinking and problem solving skills in the process. The most successful CEOs in the world are those who set realistic, achievable goals for their companies, plan the best strategies and then execute them accordingly. They also set their priorities, organize their tasks and duties and make sure all the different departments are running smoothly and efficiently. There is a famous quote that states, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”

Maintain a positive attitude. Sometimes one of the hardest things to do is remain positive when your best efforts to take control of your life don’t go according to plan. As any CEO will tell you, there are always obstacles and roadblocks that get in the way of any launch or rollout. In another similar example, ask any athlete, inventor or composer. Would you think that everything comes together for them smoothly and without any glitches? Definitely not!
The quality or character trait that separates those who succeed and those that do not, is a positive attitude and an unshakable belief in themselves. They do not let negative thoughts or obstacles get in the way of ultimate achievement. Of course, that does not mean that it is easy; it means that persistence and focus are necessary. Those who cannot maintain control of their lives quite often want to give up at first sign of trouble or difficulty. When that happens, all else seems to unravel as well, and they mistakenly feel they have no control of anything at all in their lives. This type of mindset is both counterproductive and detrimental to progress. Maintaining a positive attitude is absolutely essential for taking control of your life.

Have fun. While taking control of your life involves a lot of planning, strategy and executing, it could weigh you down if you forget to take time to have some fun. Living a full, productive life requires maintaining balance between work, relaxation and recreation. Too much structure makes Jack or Jill a dull person.

To take control of your life try an experiment by envisioning yourself as the CEO of your personal company – your own life. The concept alone will make you feel more in control. Then make the types of plans, choices and decisions that you would expect a successful CEO would make and you will be surprised at how much more in control of your life you will feel. It may take some practice and role playing, but the outcome will be – YOU in control of your life.

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>7 Life Lessons Learned from Basketball

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As I mentioned in the article on The Importance of Maintaining Balance, sports in general, are a great metaphor for life.

For example, in the course of a basketball game, many analogies can be made to what transpires in a person’s life.

The ups and downs, the challenges, the adversities and what it takes to meet them head on.

The dynamics in the game of basketball very much correspond to what takes place in life.

As in basketball, so in life:

1. Learn and master the fundamentals of the game.

Before you can play the game of basketball you must learn the basics or the fundamentals – how to play the game, how to pass, to dribble, run the court and shoot the ball. You have to develop the necessary skills to play at an acceptable level.

Lesson: In life you must also learn the basics. You must establish what it (life) is, what it means to you and want you from it. You must then develop the requisite skills and strategies for attaining it.

2. Be prepared both mentally and physically. Elite athletes know that you can’t function optimally or win games if you’re not prepared both mentally and physically. You must be in great physical shape to withstand a long, grueling and demanding basketball season. Equally important, you must have mental fitness. Mental fitness includes a positive, willing and winning mindset. One without the other will not win games.

Lesson: Being prepared mentally and physically is equally essential in life.

3. Be unselfish and a team player. Basketball is a team sport, which means it requires contribution and co-operation from every member in order to play well and win. Everyone must focus, work together and fulfill their individual role for the common good of the team.

As great of a player that Michael Jordan was, he did not win any championships until he learned to involve his teammates by trusting them and distributing the ball.

In one of the highest scoring games of his career, where he scored 63 points and set a playoff game record, his team lost to the Boston Celtics. In a sport where individual greatness is in large part measured by winning a championship ring, personal glory does not get the job done.

Lesson: So it is with life. Contribute, co-operate and share.

4. Be alert and aware. Anticipate the play. The greatest players in basketball have all been credited for having extraordinary court vision and awareness. Larry Bird, Magic Johnson, Michael Jordan, and other great players knew exactly where everyone was on the court, the players’ tendencies, and which plays would work against the different teams. The ability to anticipate and be ready for a play made them active, rather than reactive, players in a game. It’s one of the factors that separates the great players from good players.

Lesson: Being conscious and aware in life sets the stage for achievement.

5. If the plays aren’t working, re-adjust the game plan. Every great basketball player knows that when your plays aren’t working you have to adjust, and then adjust some more. The varying strengths and styles of different opponents require different tactics. You have to be able to withstand and respond to, whichever attack an opponent comes at you with.

Lesson: Life presents us with many challenges for which we must adjust our game plan.

6. Never give up on the play. Persevere. Another characteristic common to the brilliance of Larry, Magic and Michael was that they never gave up on a play. When they missed shots they would be the ones to retrieve their own rebounds, dive for loose balls, outwit defenders, and make every last second count (many times it did). They were willing to do the small things that the statistics didn’t reflect. Many a dagger was thrust into an opponent’s heart when the outcome of the game seemed a foregone conclusion. Why? Because they never gave up. Not on the play, not on the game, not on themselves!

Lesson: Persevere. Never, ever, ever give up.

7. Win more games than you lose, but accept both victory and defeat graciously. No matter what sport you play, you can’t win every game. In a 7 game championship series, two evenly matched teams often win only one more game than they’ve lost. It takes blood, sweat and tears to win a championship. If you give it everything you’ve got, no matter what the outcome, you can walk away with your head held high. Learn what it takes to win and come back and try again. Larry, Magic and Michael before they won, lost many, many games and championships. They had to learn to accept defeat before they understood what it took to win.

Lesson:
So it is with life. Everything will not always go your way. There will be both losses and wins. If you give everything your best shot and learn the lessons along the way, you will come out a winner.

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>10 Ways To Improve Your Personality

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Contrary to what you may think, you can improve your personality.

Until quite recently it was believed that personality is permanent. In 1890 William James, the famous Harvard psychologist, wrote in his influential work The Principles of Psychology, that personality was “set in plaster” by early adulthood. This view prevailed for over a century; however, the idea that personality is more fluid has gained ground over time. We are now at the point where we realize that we have influence and control over which traits and characteristics we want to develop or refine.

What is Personality?

The “personality” is the typical pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.

When we say that someone has a “good personality” we mean that they are likeable, interesting and pleasant to be with.

Everyone wants to be attractive to others. To that end, having a good personality is vital – probably even more so than good looks. In fact, approximately 85 percent of your success and happiness will be a result of how well you interact with others. Ultimately, it is your personality that determines whether people are attracted to, or shy away from you.

While we can only enhance our looks to a certain extent, we have the ability to improve the personality as much as we want. We can develop or integrate any trait we deem fitting and agreeable.

Here are some ways we can accomplish this:

1. Be a better listener.

Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill of being an exceptional listener. She was known for the way she would look a person in the eyes, hang on their every word, and make them feel important. There is nothing more appealing than having someone listen to you intently making you feel like you’re the only person in the world.

2. Read more and expand your interests.

The more you read and cultivate new interests, the more interesting you are to others. When you meet new people it gives you the opportunity to share what you know and to exchange your views with them.

3. Be a good conversationalist.

This relates to how much you read and know. Once you have much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. No one can read about or know everything, so it’s refreshing to learn from others those things we don’t have the time to about read ourselves. If you happen to be shy, join a group like Toastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you know.

4. Have an Opinion.

There is nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you have nothing to expound on. If, however, you have an uncommon point of view or differing opinion, you are more interesting and stimulating to be with socially (unless you’re a know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook expands everyone’s perspective.

5. Meet New People.

Make the effort to meet new people especially those unlike you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and alternative ways of doing things, it broadens your horizons.

6. Be yourself.

The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is trying to be something you’re not. Molding yourself in order to fit in, or be accepted, usually backfires. Since each of us is unique, expressing that uniqueness is what makes us interesting. Attempting to be a carbon copy of someone else not only falls flat, but reveals a lack of authenticity.

7. Have a positive outlook and attitude.

Who wants to be around people who are negative, complain a lot, or have nothing good to say? In fact, most of us run when we see them coming. Instead, be the kind of upbeat person who lights up a room with your energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the best in people and things. Smile warmly, spread good cheer, and enliven others with your presence.

8. Be fun and see the humorous side of life.

Everyone enjoys the company of someone who makes them laugh, or smile, so look for the humorous, quirky side in a situation – there always is one. Comic relief is a much welcome and needed diversion at times.

When you can add fun and lightheartedness to an otherwise dull, or gloomy setting, others will naturally be attracted to you, not to mention grateful.

9. Be supportive of others.

Being supportive is probably the most endearing quality you can integrate into your personality. Just as you yourself welcome it, be the support for others when they need it. We all love a cheerleader in our corner; someone who is encouraging, believes in us and helps pick us up when we’re down.

10. Have Integrity and treat people with respect.

Being honest and true to your word will bring you the admiration, respect and gratitude of others. Nothing improves a person’s personality more than integrity and respect – respect for others, as well as respect for yourself.

We humans have the power and ability to shape our personalities however we wish. When we develop ourselves to be all that we can be, we contribute to our own, as well as the happiness of others.

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>Hati-hati dengan Kalimat “Be Yourself”

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Selamat Siang teman-teman! Apa kabarnya hari ini? Meski cuaca hari ini sangat panas, namun aktivitas harus lah tetap kita lakukan dengan baik. Hari ini ada tema yang sangat unik yang jarang sekali dikupas tuntas. Sering orang menyebutkan kepada orang lain bila kita mulai resah, ingin berubah menjadi sesorang, ingin meniru perilku orang lain dan ingin dipuji bila mendapat kebaikan dan tidak ingin disalahkan bila melakukan kesalahan. Mereka akan mengatakan “Be Your Self”.

Menarik. Hal tersebut memang manusiawi. Tapi apakah tanggapan Anda, ketika ada orang yang menyarankan kepada kita dengan kalimat “Be Your Self”, atau dengan bahasa lainnya ” Jadilah dirimu sendiri!”. Lalau bagaimana kalau kita ingin berubah? Apakah tidak boleh?. Tentu boleh.

Sekarang pelajari diri Anda sebelum mengatakan “be your self”.Agar orang tidak mengatakan kita dengan nada sebaliknya dari arti ”be your self”, yaitu dengan nada mengejek atau menghina.

Apakah Anda pembohong,Pemalas,Pendengki,Pemarah,Penjahat kelamin, pelupa,penipu,pemerkosa,penjahatkambuhan,pembual,pendurhaka,penjambret,pencuri,perampok,penjudi,pemadats dan lain sebagainya? Kalau Anda salah satu dari ini. Maka kata “Be your self” sungguh tak pantas disandang oleh kita yang kata Tuhan adalah Makhluk terbaik yang Dia ciptakan.

Berubah! Itu kata yang tepat. Setiap manusia mempunyai keinginan berbuat baik dan ini menjadi fitrahnya. Namun menjadi jahat adalah juga sebuah pilihan. Tergantung mana yang itu membuat nyaman dengan diri kita. Menjadi baik dan Jahat adalah konsekuensi logis dari sebuah pilihan kita dalam bermasyarakat. Betapa saat ini orang yang kelihatannya baik, pangkatnya baik, gajinya baik,namun derajatnya sedang turun?

Benar. Melihat tulisan-tulisan dari kompasianer lainnya, mengenai pejabat korup, polisi brutal, mahasiswa demo anarkis dan fenomena sosial lainnya seperti hutan gundul,kekeringan disuatu daerah akibat dibangunnya pabrik air minum. Sungguh ironi ada pabrik air minum, namun warga disekitarnya kekurangan air. Apakah mereka penganut “Be your self”. sebuah wabah yang menurut saya akan segera menyebar ke dalam perilaku massif tak beradab. Evokasi (penggugah rasa) harus benar- benar ada demi meningkatnya harkat dan derajat bangsa ini.

Sudah saatnya berubah Kawan!

Menjadi baik, berkualitas dan berguna untuk orang lain sungguh indah. Bila kita pemberani membela yang lemah , maka “be your self” sungguhlah indah. Bila Anda penulis yang sanggup menggetarkan istana, maka “be your self ” sungguhlah bijak. Bila Anda pemerhati lingkungan dan aktif memfasilitasi pemberdayaan masyakat miskin. “Be your Self” sunggguhlah bermartabat.

Lalu Bagaimana dengan Anda?

Tulisan ini hanya sekadar renungan. saya akan mengajak Anda ke suatu negara pengekspor pemain bola ternama. Namun bukan bola dan pemainnya yang akan saya bahas. Di negeri Samba ini sudah menjadi hal yang lumrah, bila disebuah keluarga yang memilki gadis berumur tujuh belas tahun “sweet Seventen” merayakan ulang tahunnya. Ada yang menarik, bila dinegara kita, kado untuk anak gadisnya tercinta berupa benda-benda mahal,atau kendaraan mewah dan lain sebagaianya. Di Brazil ini, orang tua akan menyakan kepada anaknya apa yang akan dimintanya. Si anak kebanyakan akan mengatakan ” Aku ingin Operasi Kecantikan, alias operasi plastik”. Loh kok aneh?

Jangan merasa heran kawan! di negeri ronaldinho ini, operasi plastik adalah hal yang lumrah, hampir 80 persen wanita catik di negeri ini tidak asli lagi alias hasil dari permakan. Cantik di negeri ini telah bergeser dari natural menjadi mekanik. …kayak bengkel saja mekanik. Bukan itu maksud Saya. Kecantikan yang berasal dari meja operasi. Be your self tidak berlaku lagi di negri ini. Kecantikan bisa di up grade asal mempunyai uang. Lalu bagaimana dengan dokternya.

Ini lebih menarik lagi. Menjadi baik dan ahli sungguh dimulai dari kebiasaan. Seseorang menjadi expert dibidangnya karena dilakukan berulang-ulang. Mau cantik, hidung mancung, pipi montok dan maaf ‘payudara menjulang” datanglah ke negri yang satu ini. Bila Anda mau mengoperasi Jantung datang lah ke negri kangguru.Benua ini gudangnya dokter ahli bedah jantung. Bila Anda ingin mencagkok organ tubuh,semisal hati, maka datanglah ke negri china. Negara penghasill Bruce Lee ini ahli dibidangnya.

Bukan maksud untuk promosi, namun kebaikan bisa dilakukan dengan cara berulang-ulang dan dilakukan terus menerus penuh dedikasi. Sehingga kebaikan tadi bisa melekat. Tergantung sekali lagi “be your self “yang baik atau “be your self” yang buruk.Terserah Anda.

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>How to Be Yourself

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Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. — Oscar Wilde

Being yourself is celebrating you, as an individual – learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are. For some people, it’s learning to love yourself, for others, it’s not hiding who you are or changing things about you to fit in. So read on to know how to express the inner you.

1. Define yourself. You can’t be yourself if you don’t know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Try to take time to yourself and contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn’t like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does. You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them and not let them define you. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you’ve made; they’re done and in the past, so there is no use crying over spilled milk.

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2. Stop caring about how people perceive you. The fact is, it really doesn’t matter. It’s impossible to be yourself when you’re caught up in wondering “Do they think I’m funny? Does she think I’m fat? Do they think I’m stupid?” To be yourself, you’ve got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — not their consideration of you. Besides, if you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group may not like you, and you could go around in a vicious cycle trying to please people; it’s totally pointless in the end, and it leaves you exhausted. However, if someone you trust and respect critiques aspects of who you are, feel free to judge (honestly) whether or not it is accurate instead of accepting or dismissing the critique unconditionally.
3. Be honest and open. What have you got to hide? We’re all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself — and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don’t beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest.
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   Relax. Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterwards. Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that you’re not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It’s also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!

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   Develop and express your individuality. Whether it’s your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, then be proud of it… unless it’s destructive to yourself or others. Be a character, not a type.

6. Have a productive day. Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and that some days you are the statue. People might raise eyebrows and even make fun, but as long as you can shrug and say “Hey, that’s just me” and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you’ll respect yourself.
7. Believe in who you are. If you’re always working to be someone you’re not, you’ll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you’re proud of the way you are! Nobody knows you better than you and that’s how it should be. You deserve to be your own best friend, so start trying to figure out how you can do that. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you? Believe in this idea and use that as your starting point. Love and accept yourself as you are now.
8. Follow your own style. The common thing a lot of people do is copy other’s actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn’t you stand out? Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try avoid assuming other people’s perspectives of you. Even if it’s not something you would normally do; that’s what being yourself is all about. Maybe you like to sit outside on the deck under an umbrella in the middle of the rain, maybe you have different ideas of things, rather than other people, maybe you like strawberry cake instead of the common chocolate cake, whatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you.

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